Are you a current or prospective stepmom? For most people, taking on the role of stepparent is an entirely new experience, and presents challenges even the best prepared stepmom couldn’t have imagined. Have your partner’s children been adversarial? Maybe they shut down and you feel like you can’t connect with them. Do you feel lost about how to deal with the changes that are swirling around you?
My mother and I, who both grew up in divorced families and dealt with stepparents of our own, interviewed more than 200 adult daughters of divorce for our forthcoming book, Love We Can Be Sure Of. While they spoke about many issues, their dealings with their stepmoms were especially poignant. Their stories may help you.