Understanding Your Rights: Canadian Parents, the Law and Divorce or Separation

Legal consideration for canadian separated parents

O’Canada, where do we begin when it comes to Canadian parents, the law and divorce or separation.

First, it’s going to be okay. While it may seem like there are a million different things to consider and understand when you are separating with your partner and taking the steps to divorce, it is not as overwhelming as it originally is.

Second, Canada has a lot of protections for all parents during a divorce and when we are looking at same sex couples, more than two parents and so many other unique ways families are formed, Canada has made the effort to recognize all of those diverse family styles, which allows for Canadian parents to understand their own rights.

Third, we are here to help you understand your rights when it comes to Canadian law, which should take out both the guesswork as well as any confusion that you may have. So let’s dive in and look at those rights that you have as Canadian parents.

Canada’s a Huge Country; Does that Mean the Laws are all the Same?

The answer is a bit harder to answer. While there are many overlapping laws that are applied by federal court rulings, it is important to note that many provinces have their own laws and rules that you should be aware of for your individual place of residence. As this is a much more in-depth look, for the sake of this article, we will focus on more of the broad rights that affect all Canadian parents.

However, before we do, it should be noted that all provinces, as well as all territories, have child support guidelines as drawn out by the federal government with the exception of one—Alberta. That being said, there are some guidelines that are province based so how child support is calculated will depend on amendments provinces and territories have made to the child support guideline or if they are relying heavily on a province drafted guideline.

The New Divorce Act in Canada

On March 1, 2021, the divorce act was changed to reflect new shifts in language. This includes remove the terms custody and access and switching to parenting arrangements to remove the indication of ownership of children with the old terms. Not all provinces and territories have adopted the terminology for parenting arrangements but Canadian parents should expect this to happen Canada wide eventually.

Who is a Parent?

Under Canadian law, a parent is the mother and any other parents who are listed on the birth certificate or adoption papers. In Canada, with the exception of Alberta that still has it set at two, up to four individuals can be listed on a birth certificate; however, five or more can be added to a child’s birth certificate with a court order. These birth certificates are to reflect the ever changing dynamics of Canadian families to include same sex couples, donor parents who are involved with raising the child but may not be living with the child, or surrogate parents, etc.

It should be noted that in the case of three or more parents, there are usually parental agreements where donors and surrogates sign off on parental responsibility but are still on the birth certificate. In these events, they would not be part of the parenting arrangements as per their original contract and agreement.

The multi-parent birth certificates allow for same sex partners, and those using surrogates, to be included on the birth certificate whether they have a biological tie to the child or not.

In addition to biological parents, stepparents can apply for parenting arrangements in the event of separation or divorce. They can also be responsible for child support depending on the length of time they were in the child’s life and other conditions.

What is a Parenting Arrangement?

A parenting arrangement is a plan that you make with your partner, whether through mediation, on your own or with the court, in regard to the care of your children. With parenting arrangements, the same laws apply regardless of whether or not you and your ex partner were married or unmarried at any time in your relationship. That means that unmarried Canadian parents have the same rights as those who were married.

With the parenting arrangement, parents will agree on where the children will live, what the shared visitation will look like and who will be the primary caregiver. In addition to living and visitation arrangements, where the kids go to school will also be decided in the parenting arrangement.

Finally, both parents will agree on important decisions for the children such as education, medical care and religion. In parenting arrangements, if any of these things were to change, both parents need to reach an agreement on it that is reflective of the best interests of the child.

What are the Best Interests of the Child?

Although this article is looking at the rights of Canadian parents, one of the main takeaways is that the rights of the parents are secondary to the best interests of the child. For example, if a judge deems that contact with a parent would not be in the best interest of the child, that parent will not have contact.

With best interests, the following parameters are considered by the courts:

  1. The child’s physical, psychological and emotional well-being is the primary concern of all courts.
  2. The child’s safety and security are additional primary concerns.
  3. There should be consideration and access for healthy relationships with each parent as well as siblings and extended family members such as grandparents as long as the primary concerns are met and contact will have benefits for the child’s well-being.
  4. All arrangements should lead to stability for the child’s needs in regard to their age and development.
  5. Care arrangements should be reflective of both current separation and any future shifts due to divorce.
  6. In any parenting arrangement, culture, spiritual upbringing, heritage, and religion should be respected and included in the arrangement. This is especially important in families with mixed heritage and cultures.
  7. Indigenous rights need to be a primary concern.

Basically, the child’s culture, heritage, age and development need to be considered so the child does not suffer any negative loses of those things during separation and divorce.

As parenting arrangements are for a healthy transition from one to two homes for the children, some rights of the parents may not be considered during this time. In the end, Canadian parents need to be aware of the laws for their individual province and should come to the parenting arrangement with the best interests of the child. If they do both of those things, they should not have too many obstacles when sorting out the best arrangements for your children, yourself and one that works for your ex partner as well

How to Co-Parent Effectively with 2houses

How to Co-Parent Effectively with 2houses

Parenting…before I ever was a parent, I said to myself, I will never count to three…never. Kids will understand consequences of actions and because of how I’ll parent, we’ll never get to those counts. Then we ended up counting to three…and then, as I went through my separation and divorce, I found myself counting to get through my own emotions that were bubbling to the surface.

But I wanted to stop counting. Life happens and that means that sometimes, even with the best of intentions things don’t work out…just like when I started counting up to three to get my preschooler to listen.

And I realized that I needed to listen to be an effective co-parent. This meant listening to the needs of my kids, listening to the concerns of my ex partner and listening to what I wanted to achieve as well. And that achievement was a new normal where my ex partner and I could co-parent effectively.

Which brings me to 2houses. Not only did it really help set the tone for how my ex partner and I co-parent, but it also helped remove that tension that was leading to those moments when all I could do was count in an effort to reduce my frustration. So how did it help me co-parent effectively?

It Removed those Conflict Topics From Our Daily Communication

The first thing that 2houses did to help us co-parent effectively was to separate out those conflict topics through the use of the app. My ex partner and I could discuss finances, shared expenses and scheduling all through the app and it was incredibly easy to agree on things such as schedule changes that were needed.

With the platform dealing with those harder topics that usually bring out a lot of tension, we were able to focus any conversations we did have around the needs of the kids and we found that it was easier to have civil conversations during hand offs. We agreed to use the app for anything that could lead to a potential argument so when we were interacting, the kids didn’t see us fighting.

Created Predictability and Stability for Our Kids

While the calendar on the app really made it easy for us to create predictability for the kids, the other features on the platform allowed us to create stability. If things happened at one house or another, we could write journals to let the other parent know what happened. If a routine wasn’t working properly, we could send messages to problem solve it in the easiest manner possible.

This was important for us to create homes that had the same routines, rules and boundaries so our kids had the stability between two homes. They didn’t have additional stress by having constantly changing rules and routines as we were both on the same page.

Allowed our Kids to Stay Connected

While a major rule that we follow, and one that 2houses recommends for families, is never to infringe on the time parents are spending together, kids are kids. Sometimes, my kids wanted me when they were with my parent and vice versa. It is normal, especially since they are going through a transition like my ex partner and I were.

The 2houses platform was amazing for this because kids could initiate contact no matter where they were. We gave them each their own access to the platform and they could share messages and photos with my ex partner, and with me when they were not with me, as they wanted to. Because it was usually just quick messages back and forth, it doesn’t feel like our time is being cut into and the kids can touch base to recenter themselves as they need.

It helped us co-parent more effectively because we could really tune in on what our kids needed. We could also connect together when the kids were having a harder time with the separation and come up with strategies to ensure that they felt connected to both of us, even when they weren’t with us.

Balanced our Budgets so Money Stopped Being an Issue

I already mentioned this with conflict topics since money is one of the biggest conflict topics that you can face as co-parenting. Even with firm financial and child support agreements, finances can be a hard topic that causes a lot of conflicts between co-parents. Which is why 2houses really takes the stress out of finances.

With the app, we were able to keep track of all the monthly expenses that we had for the kids. These were routine expenses that we both agreed to share responsibility for as well as any emergency expenses that came up in the month. Plus, we could slot in things like year end field trips for the kids or when they needed new clothes.

We were also able to purchase those larger gifts together using the wish list feature in the finances and agreed to do the gift giving during a time when we were meeting for a handoff with the kids. It really did make the difference and created a new family dynamic for our kids where we were cooperating and co-parenting effectively.

While it hasn’t been 100% easy, 2houses offered a lot of options for us to step back and allow the platform to be the mediator. We were able to really stop taking shots at each other and realize that us separating, while not the easiest or anything we really wanted, was the best option for us and for our kids.

By using the platform, we were able to get back to the job of parenting and our kids have truly thrived in this new arrangement where they can feel the stability, and predictability we’ve forged through the app all while feeling the support that comes from two parents who love themregardless of whether they are in the same home or not.

And for me, the only counting I’ve done is being able to count all the ways that 2houses has enabled me to co-parent effectively.

Healthcare for Children of Divorced Parents: Strategies for Effective Communication and Coordination

Healthcare for Children of Divorced Parents

Divorce can be a difficult time for families, especially for children. With over One Million children experiencing the divorce of their parents in the United States each year, one of the many challenges that divorced parents have to face is ensuring that their children receive adequate healthcare. 

Although sharing parenting obligations with a former partner could come with more confusion and dealing with healthcare topics can feel tortuous, co-parents are better off if they handle issues proactively and with a transparent system in mind. Parents must make medical care decisions for their children with attention and transparency to ensure they continue receiving the treatment they ought. Effective communication and coordination between parents can help them in achieving this goal. 

In this article, we will discuss six strategies for effective communication and coordination to ensure that the healthcare needs of children of divorced parents are met.

Ways of employing effective communication and coordination to ensure children healthcare needs 

Establish Clear Communication Channels 

One of the essential strategies for effective communication and coordination is establishing clear communication channels between divorced parents, Which may include regular meetings, phone calls, or emails to discuss appointments, medications, and any changes in the child’s health status. Parents must communicate regularly and inform each other about their child’s healthcare needs; this will help to ensure that both parents are on the same page regarding their child’s healthcare and can work together to make informed decisions.

Share Important Information 

Sharing important health information about the child is essential for effective healthcare coordination; this includes medical histories, allergies, and any chronic conditions. In cases where the child sees multiple healthcare providers, sharing this information with all relevant parties is essential to ensure continuity of care. Both parents should have access to this information and keep it updated regularly; this will help ensure that both parents are informed about their child’s health status and can work together to make informed decisions.

Create a Healthcare Plan 

Creating a healthcare plan is effective for coordinating healthcare between divorced parents. The program should outline the child’s healthcare needs and how they will be met. It should include information about healthcare providers, medications, and emergency contact information. Both parents should have a copy of the plan, which should be updated regularly to reflect changes in the child’s health status; this will help to ensure that both parents are informed about their child’s healthcare needs and can work together to make informed decisions.

Respect Each Other’s Views 

Parents may have different views on their child’s healthcare needs, which can lead to disagreements. Both parents must respect each other’s opinions and work together to find a solution that is in the best interest of their child, which may involve compromising on specific aspects of the healthcare plan. It is important to remember that both parents want what is best for their child and focus on finding a solution that works for everyone involved.

Keep the Child’s Best Interests in Mind 

When making healthcare decisions for their child, divorced parents should always consider their child’s best interests; this may involve putting aside personal differences and working together to make decisions that are in the child’s best interest. Prioritizing the child’s health and well-being is more crucial than conflicts between the parents. By keeping the child’s best interests in mind, both parents can work together to provide the best possible healthcare for their child.

Involve Healthcare Providers 

Healthcare providers can be essential in coordinating healthcare for children of divorced parents. Parents should inform healthcare providers about their situation and ensure that all providers should know of the child’s healthcare plan. Healthcare providers can also serve as neutral parties to help parents resolve disagreements about their child’s healthcare. They can guide medical decisions and aid parents in understanding the options available for their child’s healthcare. By involving healthcare providers, both parents can access accurate medical information and expert advice, which can help ensure that their child receives the best possible healthcare.

Conclusion

Divorced parents face many challenges in ensuring that their children receive adequate healthcare. Effective communication and coordination are essential for meeting these challenges. By establishing clear communication channels, sharing important information, creating a healthcare plan, respecting each other’s views, keeping the child’s best interests in mind, and involving healthcare providers, divorced parents can work together to provide the best possible healthcare for their child. While it may be challenging to navigate, a child’s healthcare needs after a divorce, effective communication and coordination can make the process smoother for everyone involved.

In conclusion, divorced parents should prioritize their child’s health and well-being by working together to coordinate healthcare. Divorce parents can ensure that their child’s healthcare needs are met by establishing clear communication channels, sharing important information, creating a healthcare plan, respecting each other’s views, keeping the child’s best interests in mind, and involving healthcare providers. Divorce can be difficult for families, but with the right strategies in place, parents can work together to provide the best possible healthcare for their children.

If you want to learn more about coping with divorce as a family, kindly consider checking out these other articles at 2houses.com 

https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/divorce-announcement-wording-tips-for-your-children

https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/talking-parents-6-reasons-parents-should-talk-after-a-divorce-meta-description

https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/parental-separation-and-divorce-how-to-support-children

https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/the-effects-of-divorce-on-childrens-behaviour

You, Your Legal Rights, Your Legal Responsibilities and Co-Parenting in the UK

Co-Parenting in the UK

In the UK, parents have legal responsibilities as well as rights from the very moment they become parents. However, what many parents don’t understand is that those legal responsibilities and rights are maintained even if they are not the primary legal guardian. Not understanding your rights can complicate co-parenting so let’s take some time going over your legal rights, responsibilities (also known as parental responsibility) and how it applies to co-parenting in the UK.

What is Parental Responsibility?

In the UK, parental responsibility is a term that covers both the legal rights and responsibilities that parents have when it comes to their children. With parental responsibility, parents are required to cover two main roles for the child:

  1. Provide a home
  2. Protect and maintain

Protect and maintain covers a wide range of responsibilities that the child will need on the day to day. These are:

  1. Providing medical care and treatment
  2. Ensuring financial support of that child
  3. Disciplining the child
  4. Maintaining and caring for the child’s property
  5. Providing education

Another responsibility, which is not usually under consideration during separation and divorce is the naming of the child; however, there is a legal right to being able to agree to any name changes of the child at any time. 

Parental responsibility is having a say in how your child is raised while also needing to maintain the basic needs of your child. 

Who Does Parental Responsibility Pertain To?

First, all mothers have parental responsibility from the moment of birth. This is only relinquished through adoption, and rarely through court processes that prove abuse. Fathers, however, do not always have parental responsibility, but there are a few ways that they can gain parental responsibility. These are:

  1. Being named as the father (or other parent) on the birth certificate
  2. Marriage to the child’s mother

It should be noted that where you are in the UK can affect the father’s parental responsibility. In the UK and Wales, if the parents are married when the child is born or adopted, they both have parental responsibility. In Scotland, this applies to children born or adopted when partners are married or get married after the child is born. And in Northern Ireland, it applies to marriage after the child is born only if the father resides in Northern Ireland at the time of the marriage.

One thing that should be mentioned is that same sex partners who are in a civil partnership at the time of the child’s birth have equal parental responsibility. However, if they were not, they would have to apply for parental responsibility. In the UK, parental responsibility can be applied for by fathers, same sex partners, and stepfathers/parents. In addition, there can be more than two adults who have parental responsibility of a child. 

If the mother is unwilling to agree to parental responsibility with her partner, it can be processed through a court order.

What is Parental Responsibility in Separation and Divorce?

Now that we understand parental responsibility and how it applies to fathers and mothers, it is important to quickly understand UK law around divorce and children

First, regardless of parental responsibility, historically, mothers often have more legal rights over the children than fathers do. This is because, traditionally, mothers have been seen as primary caregivers to their children and while these roles have been changing over the last few decades, fathers with equal parental responsibility may not be seen as equal caregivers.

Second, during court proceedings, courts tend to rule in favour of the mother for primary residence but this is not always the case.

Third, even if the primary home is not with the father, this does not diminish the legal rights of the father. Generally, day to day decisions based on care are the responsibility of the mother when she is the primary caregiver; however, major decisions have to be agreed upon by both parents.

Finally, if the primary home is with the father, it is important to note that a mother cannot be denied contact with her child or be denied the right to make decisions about her child. The only time a mother does not have that legal responsibility is, again, if abuse or neglect is proven or if the mother gives up her parental rights. 

What Does This Mean for Co-Parenting

Now that we know a lot of the legalities, what does that mean for co-parenting your child? There are a few things that you should know.

  1. You have parental responsibility for your child, regardless of if you live with them or not. This means that all major decisions about your child’s life must include you and your ex-partner.
  2. Routine decisions do not need permissions from both parents. While it makes it easier to have the permission of both, which makes the 2Houses app an essential tool for co-parenting, only one parent needs to give permission. For instance, if your child always spent Wednesday evenings with his grandparents, you would not need to get permission to continue this practice after the divorce.
  3. Decisions should be made in writing. This is applied to major decisions. If you want to move abroad with your child, both parents have to agree to it in writing. These documents can be stored on the 2Houses app.
  4. Child support is one of the responsibilities of parental responsibility and you and your ex-partner will have to discuss what those responsibilities will look like.

In the end, co-parenting can be agreed upon by court order. However, it is good for you to talk to your ex-partner of how you will split up the responsibilities, where the children will reside, visitation schedules and the finer details. Both parents have rights and responsibilities and the sooner they can come to an agreement on how that will be split after the divorce, the sooner life can return to a routine that where your children will thrive. 

Blended Families: Navigating the Complexities of Blending Families After Divorce, Including Step-Parenting, New Siblings, and Competing Loyalties

Step-Parenting, New Siblings, and Competing Loyalties

Blending families after a divorce can be a complex and challenging process. However, it is increasingly common in today’s society. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, over 16% of children in the United States live in blended families.

The new family dynamic can be challenging, especially when step-parenting, new siblings, and competing loyalties are involved. However, building a strong and loving blended family is possible with the right mindset and approach. 

In this article, we’ll explore some tips and strategies for navigating the complexities of blended families after divorce, focusing on the USA’s divorced/separated parents.

Tips To Use in Adapting to New Family Dynamics 

Blending families after a divorce is a journey that requires patience, resilience, and understanding. It is a time of transition that involves getting to know new family members, learning to adapt to new family dynamics, and navigating new challenges. Below are a few tips to follow;

  • Patience

Patience is one of the most important things to remember when blending families after divorce. It takes time to build relationships and create a sense of family. It’s essential to be open to the different personalities and dynamics that come with blending families and to be flexible and understanding when things don’t go according to plan.

  • Establishing Clear Boundaries

Another vital aspect of blending families after divorce is establishing clear boundaries. This involves setting household rules, expectations, and responsibilities and ensuring everyone is on the same page. Clear communication is critical when establishing limitations, and ensuring everyone’s voices are heard is essential.

  • Making Adjustments

In addition to communication, it’s also important to be open to feedback and willing to make adjustments when necessary. Blended families often comprise people from different backgrounds with different values and beliefs. Listening to different perspectives and adjusting your approach can help create a more harmonious family environment.

  • Seeking Support

In addition to these tips, seeking support when needed is important. Blending families after divorce can be challenging, and it’s important to have a support system to help you navigate the ups and downs. This might include talking to a therapist or counselor, attending a support group, or contacting other blended families for advice and support.

Challenges to Face When Blending Families After Divorce 

Blending Families After Divorce

1. Step-parenting

Step-parenting can be incredibly challenging when blending families after divorce. Step-parents may struggle to find their place in the family or feel like they are stepping on the toes of the biological parent. Step-parents must establish a positive relationship with their step-children while respecting the biological parent’s role in the family. This may involve finding common ground, setting boundaries, and finding ways to build trust and respect. 

Here are some tips to help step-parents and children build positive relationships:

  • Build trust: Step-parents need to build trust with their step-children. This can be done by being consistent, following promises, and showing interest in their lives.
  • Respect boundaries: It’s essential to respect the boundaries of the children and their biological parents. Stepping in too quickly or trying to discipline the children can create tension and conflict.
  • Communicate openly: Communication is critical in any relationship but is imperative in blended families. Encourage open communication between all family members and ensure everyone feels heard and valued.

2. New Siblings 

Blended families after divorce can also involve the arrival of new siblings. This can be challenging for the latest and existing siblings, as they may need to learn to share their parents’ attention and resources. Parents must take the time to help their children adjust to the new family dynamics and encourage positive sibling relationships.

Here are some tips to help children adjust to new siblings:

  • Encourage bonding: Encourage siblings to spend time together and get to know each other. This can be done through family activities, game nights, or outings.
  • Respect individuality: It’s essential to recognize and respect the uniqueness of each child. Allow each child to have their interests and hobbies and make sure they feel valued for who they are.
  • Avoid comparisons: Comparing children to each other can create tension and resentment. Instead, focus on each child’s strengths and encourage them to work together as a team.
  • Blended families: Navigating the complexities of blending families after divorce, including step-parenting, new siblings, and competing loyalties

3. Competing Loyalties

Competing loyalties can also be a challenge when blending families after divorce. Children may feel caught between their loyalty to their biological parents and their loyalty to their new family members. Parents must create a safe and supportive environment where children feel free to express their feelings and concerns and provide reassurance and support as required.

Here are some tips to help manage competing loyalties:

  • Encourage communication: Encourage open communication between all family members. This can help address any concerns or feelings of tension that may arise.
  • Respect boundaries: It’s essential to respect the boundaries of the children and their biological parents. Allow them to maintain their relationship while building a new one with the step-parent.
  • Create new traditions: Create new family traditions that involve everyone in the family. This can help create a sense of unity and belonging.

Benefits of Blended Families 

Blending families can be challenging for everyone involved but can also be a positive experience. Here are some benefits of blended families:

1. Increased Support 

Blended families can provide children with increased emotional and financial support. Children may have more adults who care for them and can provide support in times of need.

2. New Perspectives

Blended families bring together people from different backgrounds and experiences, providing opportunities to learn and grow from each other’s views.

3. Resilience

Blended families have the opportunity to develop stability and strength by overcoming challenges and working through difficulties.

Final Thoughts

Blending families after divorce is a challenging but rewarding process. You can build a strong and loving blended family by being patient, establishing clear boundaries, being open to feedback, and seeking support when needed. 

It’s important to remember that every family is unique, and what works for one family may not work for another. Your blended family can become a strong and loving unit with time, patience, and a positive attitude.

5 Reasons Why Co-parents Love using 2houses

The Benefits of Using 2houses for Coparenting

Life is busy, even at the best of times. During separation and divorce, it can become hectic, stressful and it is very easy to become overwhelmed with tasks that used to be considered easy. Trying to co-parent in separate homes can lead to more confusion, especially if there are tensions between your ex-partner and yourself. However, even with tensions, there are still ways that families can co-parent effectively to help lower those tensions while providing stability for their children. 

And, of course, the key to that effective co-parenting is through having the right tools. 2houses is an app that makes co-parenting easy, lowers tensions and creates that stability your children need. There are countless benefits and we are going to go through some of the major ones the app offers.

Benefit of Using 2houses for Co-Parenting #1: User Intuitive

First, before we even get into the benefits of the app for your family, let’s start by looking at the app itself. 2houses was designed in 2011 by a divorced father in an attempt to communicate and organize with his ex-partner. His goal was to create a tool that improved communication and the everyday life of his son before realizing that the app was amazing for all families working through the process of separation and divorce. 

With a better day to day life with less tension, the app delivers everything parents need to raise children between 2houses.  Some of the features, which can be accessed on computer and mobile device are:

  1. Calendar: One of the key features, the app has a calendar that is colour coordinated and can be synced to other platforms, such as Google Calendar. It is easy to use and parents can use it for both scheduling and communication. Care arrangements, appointments and events can be scheduled in as can requests for changes to those arrangements, such as holidays. When requests are made, the other parent is alerted and can send messages, accept or deny the request.
  2. Albums: While there is a journal feature, which we will look at next, 2Houses also has photo albums built right into the program so both parents can access photos of their children. This is great for events, such as a soccer game, that one parent can’t attend. They can easily access the photos of the event through the app’s album. 
  3. Journal: Think of social media but all of it is 100% private and shared just between co-parents. Information, photos, videos, documents and anything important regarding your children can be placed in the journal for both parents to access. 
  4. Contacts and Information Bank: Another feature, the information bank stores and organizes important information such as contact details of schools, friends and doctors, etc. as well as medical information and even the size of the kids’ clothing.
  5. Documents: Finally, there is a section on the app that allows the storage of important documents that both parents can share. This can include birth certificates, passports and parenting agreements. 

Having everything easy to access means that communication is easier and parents can focus on the important issues. Co-parents have everything they need to make life easier for their kids as they adjust to living in two households.

Benefit of Using 2houses for Co-Parenting #2: Child Friendly

The next benefit of 2houses is that it is very child friendly. Remember that it is user intuitive and that was designed for communication. While we often focus on the communication between parents, it is important to open up communication with the kids so they can understand what is happening. 

2houses allows for that in one simple way. Kids can be added to the platform and can look at the calendar and schedule to see when things are happening and who they will be staying with. They’ll also be able to send journal entries and photos with their parents when they aren’t with them. This connection builds a bond of trust for the child and the stability of knowing a schedule will aid them as they navigate through the emotional impact of separation and divorce.

Benefit of Using 2houses for Co-Parenting #2: Reduces Confusion

One of the most common problems that arise with co-parenting is confusion. This can be through missed messages, forgetting to remind the other parent of an event or not remembering to update when there is a change in schedules. Confusion can lead to other emotions and can cause underlying tensions that parents don’t want their kids to pick up on.

A huge benefit of the 2houses app is that it reduces confusion. As long as both parents are using the app, there won’t be any missed notifications regarding activities, changes in care plans and so on. Parents will know when things are happening and everything will be accessible if there is an emergency. Less confusion means less stress for everyone, including the kids. 

Benefit of Using 2houses for Co-Parenting #4: Opens Up Communication

A breakdown of communication is something that can happen during separation and divorce—often because there are other tensions and emotions at play. However, when it comes to co-parenting, communication is very important for everyone involved, especially for the kids.

The 2houses app allows for parents to communicate even when they are not communicating verbally. The app is a neutral third party and keeps kids from being messengers of information. Anything important that needs to be communicated can be shared on the app and, many times, having this neutral option for communication can open up co-parenting in surprising ways. 

Benefit of Using 2houses for Co-Parenting #5: Allows for Involvement

Finally, involvement is an important benefit of 2houses. Parents can stay involved with their kids whether they are at home or at their other parent’s house. They can see what is going on, work out arrangements to be at those big events and they can keep up with their obligations in an organized way. We all want to be involved with our kids and having an app that makes it automatic and simple provides the best options throughout co-parenting. 

As you can see, there are many different benefits to using a co-parenting app and 2houses is unique in that it was created by someone facing the same obstacles of co-parenting effectively. The creator knew the challenges and the app is designed to overcome those challenges…which is the biggest benefit of them all. 

Supporting a Child’s Ability to Cope with the Emotional Impact of Separation and Divorce

Emotional Impact of Separation and Divorce

When parents find themselves considering separation and divorce, they often think of the different impacts on the whole family. Monetary, living spaces and even schooling factor in but, often, parents are reassured that children are resilient. While this is true, it is important for parents to understand the emotional impact of separation and divorce and how to help their children cope with it.

What Emotional Impacts Occur With Children?

There are a number of emotional impacts that you can see in your child during separation and divorce. These can be:

  • Strong Emotions: Children often experience a range of emotions from sadness to anger. They can have a sense of loss and can experience high levels of anxiety. Depression is also not uncommon. 
  • Behavior Problems: There are a range of behavior problems that occur including delinquency, problems connecting or experiencing increased conflict with peers or adults, impulsive behaviour and conduct disorders. In addition to those behavior problems, children often engage in risk taking behaviors, such as early sexual activity and drug and alcohol use.
  • Poor Academic Performance: While we think of this as more of a psychological hurdle, it is often linked to emotional impacts. Recently, a study has shown that poor academic performance is seen more commonly in children where divorce was unexpected, rather than when divorce was expected.

It is important to understand that the age of the child will also have emotional impacts. Young children are more likely to worry about not being loved any longer by one or both parents. Grade school children often shoulder the blame of divorce and teenagers can become quite angry with one or both of their parents. Regardless of age, children often feel fear and confusion around the divorce and separation, along with a high level of stress, which can lead to those behavioral impacts as a result.

Helping Your Children Cope with Emotional Impacts

Coping with the emotional impacts of divorce and separation are key in helping your child adjust to the new norm in their life. In addition, parents should understand that coping is an ongoing process. Even when kids look like they are fully coping with the change, there can be setbacks that bring new, or old, emotions to the forefront and parents may have to shift the coping mechanisms.

However, we have several coping mechanisms that will help your child cope with the emotional impacts. 

1. Coping with Your Own Emotional Impacts

Although a lot of our focus is on the impact of separation and divorce on children, it is important to start by looking at the emotional impacts you are facing yourself. No matter how you reached the decision to separate, you will have your own emotional impacts that can include anger, frustration, grief, anxiety and a range of other emotions. 

Take time to destress, exercise and look into therapy to help you work through the emotions of separation and divorce. Find the coping strategies that work for you and put them to use daily. By learning how to cope with your emotional impacts, you will model coping strategies to your children. 

2. Adult Problems – Adult Solutions

While this is not directly combating emotional impact directly, it is one of the most important steps that you can take as parents. Divorce affects the entire family, but it is still an adult problem that adults need to find the solutions for. Children should not be involved in this process at all as it adds unnecessary stress for them.

Some ways that you can minimize bringing the kids into the adult problem are:

  • Communicate Directly: Don’t make your kids the messenger. If you need to communicate something to your ex-partner, say it directly to them through phone calls, emails, texts, etc. When a child is working as the messenger, it can lead them to easily step into a mediator role, which leads to an increased risk of anxiety and depression.
  • Be Diplomatic: This goes with communicating directly but when you are diplomatic, there is often less tension between parents. Make sure that you are not badmouthing the other parent to or in front of the child. 
  • Learn: Parenting through divorce and separation is a learning process so it is important to learn and educate yourself as parents. Find out the best way to navigate divorce, how to meet the needs of your kids together and how to get support when needed.

In the end, maintaining a parenting relationship with your ex-partner that is as free of tension and stress as possible will go a long way in helping your kids cope with the divorce.

3. Foster Healthy Dynamics

Fostering healthy dynamics with your children and your ex-partner enables everyone to cope with the emotional impact of separation and divorce. This can be done in a number of ways. 

  1. Foster a strong parent-child relationship: Keep conflict low, find ways to meet the needs of your kids in positive, respectful ways. Be sure to set limits but also give the child parental time, affection and warmth.
  2. Allow your kids to feel safe: Find out where their worries are and make sure they feel loved and safe. Many children can have a fear of abandonment from one or more parents so reassurance that you will be there for your child is important. 
  3. Keep routines: With so much change, it can be difficult to keep routines but it is important to try. Agree with your partner on routines and schedules that will happen at both homes and enforce those routines. When kids have a sense of structure, they feel less stress and going between homes won’t be as scary for them.
  4. Let your kids tell you what they need: While we want to solve all the hurt your child is living through, it is important to not always fix it for them. Listen to them when they tell you what they need and try to incorporate that into your child’s life. They’ll feel empowered, and learn that they are strong enough to work through the stress. 

Before moving on to the final tip, it is important to maintain a healthy relationship with your ex-partner through open communication. The more you communicate in a respectful manner, the better your child’s coping skills.

4. Be Consistent

Consistency is key with coping with emotional impacts. Be consistent with your actions, time and with routines as mentioned above. In addition, establish rules and consequences with your ex-partner in regard to your children. If consequences need to be given, make sure that it is consistent between both households. Studies have shown that consistency, even in regard to discipline, help reduce delinquency in children. 

In the end, these are coping strategies that you can use without professional help; however, if nothing is working and your child is still experiencing a lot of emotional distress and negative behaviors as a result, it is important to seek professional help. This help could be through mediators to provide a lower level of tension between parents, or psychological support from a trained professional for your children and even your whole family. 

The key to successfully coping with the emotional impact from separation and divorce is in being proactive and getting the support you and your children need. 

Managing Childcare Costs after Divorce: Resources and Tips for Budgeting and Negotiating Expenses

Managing Childcare Costs after Divorce

Introduction

Divorce can be an emotionally draining and difficult experience for parents and children. Our previous blog posts have shown that divorce has a profound emotional impact on children in many circumstances. Since infants learn about the world via their parents and surroundings, this foundation is strengthened as children grow older.

It is also a time when parents must carefully consider the financial implications of raising children independently. Managing childcare costs after a divorce can be challenging, but with the right resources and tips, developing a budget that works for both parents is possible.

Continue reading for some of the most helpful resources and tips for managing childcare costs after divorce. These include budgeting strategies, negotiating expenses with your former partner, and finding additional financial assistance.

How Are Child Care Expenses Divided after a Divorce?

Childcare expenses can quickly consume a large portion of a parent’s annual budget. In the United States, the rate of childcare ranges from $5,184 to $432 per month. Several variables influence how parents divide childcare expenditures when they divorce. Depending on the scenario, one or both parents may need to take on the primary or secondary caregiver role. Moreover, determining how childcare expenditures are distributed in a divorce may be complicated because childcare costs are sometimes unexpected and difficult to estimate. Childcare costs, in particular, may be influenced by the child’s age and the availability of daycare facilities.

It is imperative to note that childcare costs will differ depending on your child’s age and whether you have access to childcare facilities. The child’s age, the area where you live, and the type of childcare you and your child receive are essential factors to consider.

How to Divide Childcare Expenses When Separated

If you and your spouse are separating, it is a must to establish a financial agreement regarding how to split childcare expenses. You and your spouse both likely have differing childcare needs and economic needs. By establishing a financial agreement, you can ensure that your needs are met. Before you begin the separation process, discussing childcare and the future is worthwhile. The separation process can be emotionally challenging for parents and children, so discussing childcare is beneficial before the separation begins.

At the very least, it is critical to agree on who will take on the role of primary caregiver in the event of a separation. This can be helpful to have a financial agreement about how to split childcare costs. It can also help to have an agreement about who will take on responsibility for paying child support. This can be helpful if one parent cannot pay child support or is unwilling to do so.

How to budget around spousal and child support after getting divorced?

There are methods to budget around increased expenditures if one of the parents gets help from a previous spouse or another source. In many circumstances, one parent is responsible for paying spousal and child support, which may be difficult. Although budgeting for spousal and child support after divorce might be challenging, it is feasible. It is possible to manage childcare expenditures after divorce by following a few financial strategies, including controlling the expense of spousal and child support.

  • Contribute to child support. You may reduce the amount of child support you must pay by donating to it. If you are required to pay child support, contributing may assist in minimizing the overall amount you will have to spend.
  • Think about using flexible spending accounts. You may be able to manage child support bills, such as childcare costs, by setting up a flexible spending account. You may also assist with managing expenditures related to spousal assistance, such as housing and food.

Best way to spend money before and after divorce

Before you start budgeting for your family, you must have a strategy for managing your funds. Although adjusting to another budget may be difficult with the emotional turbulence of divorce, having a strategy for handling funds can be beneficial. Making a financial plan may help manage emotions and ease the transition to your current budget.

How to Create a Financial Plan

Make a budget. Many individuals start managing their money after creating a budget. A budget may aid in the simplification of financial planning and give a simple approach to monitoring and managing money. A budget may also help you make better financial decisions and find new ways to earn more.

Determine and address risk areas. Identifying and resolving areas of risk, such as high-cost loans or areas of trouble in your portfolio, may help simplify managing money. You can simplify your money management process and lower spending by identifying and resolving high-cost loans.

Best Way to Schedule Regular Bank Account Transfers

Scheduling monthly bank account transfers are one of the best strategies for handling childcare costs after a divorce. You may reduce the time you spend running funds by following a regular transfer plan. Creating a regular transfer timetable could ensure that all financial transactions are executed on time. A systematic transfer plan will help you keep track of childcare expenditures after divorce, including the price of daycare.

However, by putting in some extra effort, it is possible to develop a budget that works for both parents. A child care and development block grant (CCDBG) is a federal program that is legislation establishing the Child Care and Development Fund (CCDF). The CCDF is maintained by states, territories, and tribes and defines how federal funds will provide financial assistance to low-income families seeking child care. The National Association of Child Care Resource and Referral Agencies can also assist in managing childcare costs after divorce easier than ever before.

If you are beginning to manage your childcare costs after a divorce, it is wise to plan ahead. This means you can start creating a budget as soon as you can. You may be unable to work out a shared custody arrangement with your ex-spouse, but it’s vital to be honest with yourself when creating a budget.

Conclusion: Managing Childcare Costs after a Divorce

Just because a couple split up doesn’t mean they shouldn’t continue to share the responsibility of raising their child. However, parents must set aside the emotions of their divorce and focus on what is most beneficial for the children involved. This means putting aside past grievances and concentrating on resolving childcare costs.

The most important advice I can give you is don’t panic. Managing childcare costs after divorce is difficult but not impossible, and once you’ve found your feet, you’ll be much more confident about the future. We have many other online resources available that can assist with budgeting and negotiating childcare expenses. We would be happy to assist you in any way we can if you have any questions or concerns.

Helping Your Child Build Resilience after Divorce: Strategies for Supporting Your Child’s Emotional Health and Well-Being

Helping Your Child Build Resilience after Divorce

Introduction

Divorcing can be an emotionally challenging experience for both parents and children. While it is appropriate to acknowledge the pain and grief that comes with divorce, it is also imperative to focus on helping your child build resilience in moving forward.

According to the National Institute for Health Statistics, 10 million children (14% of the population) live in divorced or separated households. By understanding your child’s unique needs, you can create a supportive environment that encourages healthy emotional development and well-being.

Continue reading about strategies for helping your child build resilience after divorce and promote positive emotional health.

Strategy for Supporting Your Child’s Emotional Health and Well-Being after a Divorce

Around 80% of divorced children adapt smoothly and have no long-term negative effects on their academics, social adjustment, or mental health. Children who grow up in households with much squabbling, antagonism, and dissatisfaction are more likely to develop mental health illnesses and behavioral issues.

As a consequence, it is typical for youngsters to struggle with their emotions and behavior immediately after parental separation. Divorce may be a challenging experience for children, so it is imperative to concentrate on their mental health and well-being during this time. Encourage self-care, maintain a stable and supportive family environment, and create strong bonds with your kid. 

Self-care is critical for maintaining mental health and well-being, and encouraging children to engage in self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, or writing may assist them in managing stress and anxiety. Positive coping skills and stress-reduction approaches may help kids build resilience and deal with difficult emotions.

Resilience in Children: Strategies to Strengthen Your Kids

Divorce may be a difficult event for children. Therefore, it is critical to help them build resilience to the upheaval. The capacity to recover from setbacks and adapt to new conditions is called resilience. Resilience is a talent that can be learned and improved over time, and parents may play a vital role in assisting their children in developing resilience.

One of the most effective strategies to boost children’s resilience is providing a stable and supportive environment. Children want safety and security, which parents may provide by keeping a regular schedule and creating a stable home environment. Even during upheaval and uncertainty, this may help them feel anchored and comfortable.

What Strategy Should You Use?

The strategy to assist children in building resilience is to help them create a positive outlook. This might include encouraging them to concentrate on their strengths and successes rather than their flaws and failings. Parents may also assist their children in developing a growth mindset by teaching them that setbacks and obstacles are chances for development and learning.

It is also critical to educate children about coping strategies to assist them in dealing with stress and worry. Teaching them relaxation methods such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga may help. It may also include teaching kids problem-solving techniques and encouraging them to seek assistance from trustworthy people such as parents, teachers, or counselors.

Parents may assist their children in developing resilience by modeling resilient behavior. This may include using healthy coping skills such as positive self-talk, exercise, and self-care. It may also involve exhibiting endurance in the face of difficulties and disappointments.

It takes time and works to develop resilience in children, but it is a necessary trait that may help them succeed in the face of hardship. Parents may help their children build the strength they need to handle the difficulties of divorce and beyond. This is done by providing a stable and supportive environment, teaching them coping strategies, and modeling resilient behavior.

Ways to Raise Happy, Resilient Kids after a Divorce

Divorce may be difficult, but raising happy, resilient children in the aftermath is possible. The idea is to concentrate on having a stable and supportive family environment that fosters positive emotional health and well-being. Here are some ideas for parenting resilient children after divorce:

  • 1. Concentrate on co-parenting: Co-parenting might be difficult, but collaborating is critical to provide a stable and supportive home environment for your children. This might include establishing regular norms and routines, talking freely and politely, and working together to make choices for your children’s well-being and interests.
  • 2. Promote open communication: Children must feel comfortable discussing their thoughts and concerns with their parents. Open communication may help youngsters feel supported and heard, promoting their emotional health and well-being.
  • 3. Encourage healthy connections: Children need positive relationships with both their parents and other adults, such as grandparents, aunts, uncles, and family friends. These interactions give children additional sources of support and guidance, which can help them grow resilience.
  • 4. Give chances for fun and play: Children need opportunities for joy and play, even during stress and uncertainty. Offering children a chance to have fun and space may help them feel joyful and engaged, promoting their emotional health and well-being.
  • 5. Get help: Divorce may be a complicated process for parents. Therefore it is critical to seek help when required. Talking to a therapist, joining a support group, or asking friends and family for assistance may help.

Things Not to Say to a Child in Divorce

Divorce may be a challenging experience for children; therefore, it is crucial to be cautious of what you say to them at this time. These are some things not to speak to a divorced child:

  • 1. “It’s all your fault”: Holding your child responsible for the divorce may be devastating, leading to guilt and humiliation. Avoid blaming children for the divorce and instead concentrate on building a supportive and stable family environment.
  • 2. “Your other parent is a nasty person”: Negative comments about the other parent may harm children and cause uncertainty and worry. It is critical to avoid disparaging the other parent instead of concentrating on co-parenting and fostering a healthy home environment.
  • 3. “I wish things had been different”: Expressing regret or grief about the divorce may be difficult for children to hear, leading to emotions of fear and uncertainty and concentrating on maintaining a pleasant home environment and giving children the support and direction they need to flourish after a divorce is critical.
  • 4. “I don’t have time for you right now”: While divorce may be difficult for parents, it is critical to prioritize your children’s needs and offer them the support and attention they need. You must not ignore your children during this period and instead concentrate on providing a supportive and stable home environment.
  • 5. “You shouldn’t feel that way”: Validating children’s feelings may be very harmful, leading to uncertainty and fear. Validating children’s emotions and providing them with the support and direction they need to manage the obstacles of divorce is critical.

Conclusion: Building Child’s Resilience after Divorce

Parents may help their children develop resilience and flourish after divorce by concentrating on co-parenting, supporting open communication, establishing solid connections, offering chances for fun and play, and getting assistance when required.

You may help your children develop resilience and flourish after divorce by being attentive to what you say to them throughout the divorce. You may help your children by concentrating on self-care, development of coping skills, time for fun and play, accessing assistance, and providing a stable and supportive home environment.

At this time, it is a must to be patient and understanding. In addition, it is a must to offer your children the support and advice they need to manage divorce problems.

Blended Family and Step-Parenting Tips

Blended Family and Step-Parenting Tips

More than forty percent of all American families are blended families. At some point in their lives, most people may find themselves moving from a ‘blended’ state to a ‘traditional’ family setting.

In other words, they may find themselves part of a step or blended family.

Whether you are interested in becoming part of a step-family or you already are and you’re looking for some advice and information on how to navigate this unique situation, you’ve come to the right place.

Below, we’ve put together our top stepfamily and blended family tips for you to check out.

Set Realistic Expectations

Setting realistic expectations is crucial when it comes to blended family life. After a divorce, parents and children may already be dealing with feelings of loss and upheaval.

Adding a stepmom or stepfather to the mix can further complicate things. This is particularly the case if expectations are unrealistic.

Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment, resentment, and even conflict.

To set realistic expectations, parents, stepmoms, and stepfathers should communicate openly and honestly about their hopes and concerns. They should take the time to get to know each other and build trust.

This includes discussing important issues such as discipline, family traditions, and routines.

It is also important to have an open mind and be flexible. But you should still try to create clear boundaries and set expectations.

For example, a stepmom might expect to instantly bond with her stepchildren and have the same level of authority as their biological mother.

But this may not be realistic, particularly if the children are still dealing with the aftermath of their parent’s divorce.

Instead, the stepmom could set the expectation that building a strong relationship with the children will take time. She could also communicate with the biological mother to establish clear boundaries around parenting roles.

Be a Great Communicator

One of the best ways that you can be a great communicator is by using “I” statements.

“I” statements are a type of communication that focuses on expressing how you feel. It is a much better idea to do this than it is to place blame and pointing fingers.

By using “I” statements, you’ll be taking responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings. This can help to prevent conflict in conversations.

You should structure “I” statements to begin with the word “I.” You’ll then need to follow with a specific feeling or emotion. This might include “I feel frustrated when…” or “I am concerned about…”.

Address Sibling Rivalry

Sibling rivalry is a normal part of growing up. But it can be a challenging issue for parents to navigate.

Addressing sibling rivalry is important for fostering a healthy and positive family environment.

One of the first steps in addressing sibling rivalry is to acknowledge it and talk about it openly. This can be a difficult conversation to have, but it’s important to stay positive.

You should also emphasize the importance of treating each other with kindness and respect.

Determine the Household Rules

During the divorce process, or after a child custody evaluation, establishing clear and consistent household rules can help to create a stable environment for children.

When determining household rules, make sure to involve everyone in the conversation. This can include talking with your children about their needs and concerns.

You should try to work together to establish rules that are fair and appropriate for everyone in the family. By doing this, you will create a sense of ownership and accountability.

This will help to promote positive behavior and respect for the rules. You’ll also need to establish consequences for breaking the rules, and enforce those consequences consistently.

This can help create a sense of predictability and stability in your home.

Nurture Family Bonds

A strong family bond provides children with a sense of security and support. This will also promote positive social, emotional, and cognitive development.

One of the best ways to nurture family bonds is by prioritizing activities that foster meaningful connections. When you are creating a parenting plan, it’s a good idea to identify what these activities are.

One of the best ways to nurture family bonds is to spend time together as a family. This can include activities like family dinners, game nights, and outings to local parks.

By spending quality time together, you will create a sense of togetherness and closeness with those who you care about.

Parent Together and Not Separately

When parents work together, they will create a sense of unity within the family. Also, when parents work together, they can more effectively model positive behavior and problem-solving skills for their children.

One of the best ways to parent together is to establish a clear and consistent approach to parenting. This can include agreeing on rules and consequences for behavior and consistently enforcing those rules and consequences.

Another key aspect of parenting together is effective communication. You will need to be willing to listen to one another’s perspectives and concerns.

You will also need to commit yourselves to working together.

Blended Family and Step-Parenting Tips

It can be challenging to figure out how to be a great parent if you live in a blended family or if you are a step-parent.

This is why it is such a good idea to familiarize yourself with the top tips and tricks. Make sure to set clear expectations and to be a great communicator. You should also take action to address sibling rivalry.

Are you ready to start improving your family life? If so, 2houses is here to help you. Don’t hesitate to visit our Key Features page to get started today!